Eager for life? Guard Your Tongue
Apr 6, 2022
נְצֹר לְשׁוֹנְךָ מֵרָע וּשְׂפָתֶיךָ מִדַּבֵּר מִרְמָה׃
Guard your tongue from evil, your lips from deceitful speech.
Leviticus goes into great detail describing the disease of tzaraat and the ensuing process of purification. Though usually mistranslated as leprosy, tzaraat is, in fact, a physical affliction resulting from a spiritual malady.
According to Jewish commentaries, tzaraat is a result of speaking lashon hara. Lashon hara literally means ‘evil tongue’ or ‘evil speech’ and is usually translated as slander. It is an important concept in Judaism and worth a deeper look at what it is all about.
Tale-bearing or slander is explicitly prohibited by the Torah in several places:
You must not carry false rumors; you shall not join hands with the guilty to act as a malicious witness Exodus 23:1
Do not deal basely with your countrymen. Do not profit by the blood of your fellow: I am Hashem. Leviticus 19:16
This is also stated in Psalms:
Who is the man who is eager for life, who desires years of good fortune? Guard your tongue from evil, your lips from deceitful speech. Psalms 34:13-14
The rabbis also understand the following verse in Deuteronomy to be referring to the sin of slanderous speech:
Cursed be he who strikes down his fellow countryman in secret.—And all the people shall say, Amen. Deuteronomy 27:24
The Hebrew term translated in Leviticus 19:16 as ‘deal basely’ is lo teileich rakheel (לֹא־תֵלֵךְ רָכִיל). The word rakheel literally means ‘gossip’ or ‘talebearing’. In this verse, gossiping is equated with spilling blood, implying the seriousness of the sin.
It has been said that lashon hara kills three: the person who speaks it, the person who hears it, and the person about whom it is told. The harm done by speech is even worse than the harm done by stealing or by cheating someone financially, because amends can be made for monetary harm but the harm done by speech can never be repaired. Speech has been compared to an arrow: once the words are released, like an arrow, they cannot be recalled; the harm they do cannot be stopped and the harm they do cannot always be predicted, for words, like arrows, often go astray.
Tzaraat as a direct result of lashon hara was graphically illustrated when Miriam was stricken for her involvement in slandering Moses (Numbers 12:10).
An even more tragic case of lashon hara was when the spies spoke slanderously about the land of Israel, resulting in the death of the entire generation (Numbers 13:1–33).
According to the Talmud (Gittin 55b–56a), it was the slander of Jews by Jews that actually brought about the destruction of the Second Temple.
The laws of lashon hara are too lengthy to include in one article and were, in fact, the subject of two authoritative books written by Rabbi Yisrael Meir Kagan: Chafetz Chaim (“Desirer of Life”, them name taken from Psalms 34:13–14) and Shemirat HaLashon (“Guarding the tongue”), both published in 1873. The Chafetz Chaim lists 31 speech-related commandments mentioned in the Torah.
Lashon hara refers to derogatory or negative speech about a person. Lashon hara can consist of truthful speech as well as lies. In fact, the rabbis teach that truth spoken with harmful intent is far more damaging than a lie told with the same intent. Lashon hara can be spoken or even implied by hints. It can be transmitted through face-to-face conversation, a letter, telephone, email or even body language.
It is also forbidden to repeat anything about another, even if it is not a negative thing. This is called rechilut.
Not only is it forbidden to speak lashon hara, it is also forbidden to listen to lashon hara. One should either reprimand the speaker, or, if that is not possible, one should extricate oneself from the situation. Even if one has already heard the lashon hara, it is forbidden to believe it. On the contrary, one should always judge one’s fellow favorably.
Some statements are not outright lashon hara, but can imply lashon hara or cause others to speak it. These statements constitute avak lashon hara, meaning traces of lashon hara. One example is to praise someone in front of people who do not like him, thereby leading them to insult him. Another example would be to praise someone in a manner that would lead others to take advantage of him.
There are times when a person is permitted or even required to disclose information whether or not the information is disparaging. For instance, if a person’s intent in sharing negative information is for a positive, constructive, and beneficial purpose that may serve as a warning to prevent harm or injustice, the prohibition against lashon hara does not apply.
By contrast, hotzaat shem ra, spreading a bad name, – also called hotzaat diba or motzi shem ra (lit. “putting out a bad name”) – consists of lies, and is best translated as “slander” or “defamation” (calumny). Hotzaat shem ra is an even graver sin than lashon hara.
Hotzaat shem ra, spouting lies and spreading disinformation, is always prohibited. It is important to note that even with positive intentions, there are many important limitations regarding when it is permitted to speak lashon hara.
An addition by Rabbi Isaac Roussel:
Rabbi Akiva said that the greatest commandment in the Torah is to love one’s neighbor as oneself. Shimon ben Azzai disagreed. He said the greatest was found in Genesis 5:1 “When God created humanity, he made them in the likeness of God.” We are called upon to treat others with dignity and respect because they are created in his image, even if we don’t like the outside appearances. Moreover, we are required to speak lashon hatov of them and to them in order to build them up, encouraging them to grow into Hashem’s image.
I would like to add that lashon hatov does not always mean that we have to praise everyone. It can mean correcting someone, but it must be done with love and humility. Rav Shaul says:
A slave of the Lord shouldn't fight. On the contrary, he should be kind to everyone, a good teacher, and not resentful when mistreated. Also he should be gentle as he corrects his opponents. For God may perhaps grant them the opportunity to turn from their sins. (2 Tim 2:24-25a CJB)
Lashon hatov can be praising someone, but it can also be a gentle correction.
May we increase our lashon hatov, our good speech. May we seek to build others up and spur them on to be the best “them” they can be. May we hone our eyesight to see others as God sees them.
And thus see Hashem’s face in their distressing disguise.